How To Spiritually Refuel When You Are Empty

A Real Mom's Guide

Some days I feel completely empty—like every last ounce of selflessness and goodness is pumped out of me—and sweet faces say, “more please”, clanking their needy glasses.

More of what, child? I’m empty.

Empty from early morning wake-ups, dirty dish pile-ups, Lego tower melt-downs, and toddlers that scream in their car seat, “LET ME OUT!”—as I drive older kiddo to school and already feel behind on the deadlines, bill paying, friend needing help, and what-am-I-making-for-dinner again?

It’s only 8 a.m.

How To Spiritually Refuel

Um, Stop.

Let’s pull over.

Why do we push the gas of our lives until we sputter? Then we hurl our family into emergency mode, as mommy needs to rebuild our emotional and spiritual engine.

It makes sense, right?

If we keep pushing the gas and never fill up, the car will break down. Us too. Mamas need filling up.

But to make the space to fill our tanks sometimes seems selfish.


Refueling Is Loving Others

Mamas, we need to fuel up so we have resources to pour out. Nothing in, nothing out. Or, in my case, nothing in= emotional, stressed mommy out.

The beautiful eyes that look up at you for kind words, plates full of yummy dinners, clean clothes and lots of books read are the same eyes that need you to fill up your heart.

But, HOW? Where to start when you need a re-fuel?

1) Remember God’s love.

 Let’s just pull over to the side of the road, stop looking at the ridiculous billboards of “have it all and do it all”, to drink down the truths of the Lord and His love for us.

If some days dinner is microwaved hotdogs because we need a break—

God loves us.

If the laundry isn’t quite folded because we took some time to tap into Jesus—

God loves us.

If we pick-up a pre-made baked good instead of making it from scratch—

God loves us.

If our kid’s birthday party isn’t Pinterest-worthy—

God loves us.

God loves us even before we roll out of bed in the morning.

Lamentations 3:22-23 (ESV)

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
his mercies never come to an end;
they are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.

2) Establish a pattern of refueling.

Just like brushing our teeth morning and night, we need a pattern of when and where we refuel.

So, the question: Where and when can you pause the giving of energy to refuel your tank with the Lord? It may look unique and unconventional in this season. I have a sweet friend that crafts to connect with God. As she is sewing she prays, sings, and communes.

Who we are in Christ, spills out to how we live.


  • Staying awake after the kiddo(s) go to sleep and find a space where you won’t fall asleep (sometimes I just pace, pray, and read my Bible out loud—quietly lol).
  • Setting the kiddo(s) up with toys or screen time where they won’t need you for a few moments and you connect with Jesus.
  • Using a break at work to pray, read, and journal.
  • Listening to the Bible on a commute.

Think outside the box. Tap into your inner-child’s creativity and experiment. But make it something regular that cannot be dismissed unless there is a legitimate emergency.

3) Start right now.

Right now, take a pause. Breathe. Close your eyes and ask Jesus to refuel you.

Then read the below Psalm to help focus your heart on His truth. Sip it as you would your favorite Starbucks drink.

Psalm 103:1-5 (NASB)

Bless the Lord O my soul,

And all that is within me, bless His holy name.

How to spiritually refuel when you are empty


Bless the Lord, O my soul,

And forget none of His benefits;

Who pardons all your iniquities,

Who heals all your diseases;

Who redeems your life from the pit,

Who crowns you with lovingkindness and compassion;

Who satisfies your years with good things,

So that your youth is renewed like the eagle.


  • Filling up yourself is vital to you and those you love.
  • God loves you no matter what, even before you get out of bed in the morning.
  • God’s mercies are new every day.
  • Implement a pattern of refueling—whatever works best for your season and family.
  • Drink up the goodness of Jesus Christ our Lord—the only true and living water.

Now, sweet mama. Go in peace into whatever you do next. The Lord bless you and keep you, make His face shine upon you, and give you peace.

PRAY: God, I know I need You. You are the only One that satisfies my deepest needs and frees me from feeling empty. Please show me where and when to connect with You. Please show me what changes I can make so I can live out of Your love instead of my failing strength—with no guilty feelings. In Jesus’ name, AMEN.

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