How Can I Fail Well As A Mom?

A Devotion

I failed today. I scheduled an hour buffer to arrive to church on time. Time for tantrums, forgotten items, or dirty diapers. Surely an hour would be enough.

Not so much.

After several rounds of tantrums and disobedience we arrived 15 minutes late after the start of the worship service.

Sound familiar? We all have motherhood days where kids attitudes and misbehavior threaten us to fail at every good thing a mama should be.




… and on time?

How do we fail well when it feels like we are failing at everything?


How to Fail Well

In the past I would push and push, rush and rush. Nevermind training my children’s hearts at an inconvenient time: we needed to be somewhere!

Recently the Spirit reminded me that we have a REAL enemy that not only wants to steal our joy, but also steal the hearts of our children. What better way for the enemy to steal their hearts, than for Mean Mommy Sundays as I want to go “worship” Jesus?

So, this morning, through lots of “Jesus help me” prayers,

I decided to fail well.

  • I failed at being to church on time.
  • I failed at walking in slowly with time for connecting with others.
  • I failed at the kids hearing the Bible story in Sunday School.
  • But one thing I did well? Taking the time to be present with my children to reach their hearts.

I am learning that I will fail every day—don’t you worry—there is so much on my plate, I will fail multiple times in multiple ways.

But WHAT I fail at is my choice. 

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God–this is your true and proper worship.

Romans 12:1

I think we worship God as moms when we fail well. We offer our bodies in honor of the Lord. Training the hearts of our children sometimes requires us to fail in other areas.

In 20 years as my children remember their “Christian mommy”, what do I want that picture to be? Stressed out mommy trying to do it all well? Surely then they will see the power of Jesus in my life and want to follow, right? No.

I want them to see Christ’s loving patience in me. Even if my home is not picked up all at the same time for the next 18 years.

So, I am choosing to fail. Fail at rushing to fit in one more grocery store and kids being exhausted. Fail at washing the dishes when one asks me to read a book. Fail at being on time when their hearts need training more than I need to sing a few songs at church.

Next week I’ll plan for more time.

Mamas, we all fail. Let’s choose to fail well, so we can win where it counts.


God, please help me to fail well this week. I ask for your Holy Spirit to lead me and the truths of Your Word to guide me, so I can fail well where it is not important—and win where it is most important. I need Your help, oh Father. Only You can show me the way to live my life as a sacrifice as a form of worship to You. In Jesus’ name I pray, AMEN.


Question:What is something you want to win at this week with your children? What might you need to fail at in order to win? To leave a comment, just click here.


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