How to Experience God’s Love When You Feel Unloved

3 Things I Learned From Depression

My thoughts trapped me in a dark pit. When I attempted to climb the slippery walls, of “just try harder,” I’d fall back down, more bruised and depressed. God’s love grew dim.

Just try harder. Keep your house clean—serve your husband—teach your kids—be creative—cook healthy—serve the poor—volunteer—start a business—get in shape—be like that other mom. Just try harder.

And as the weeks lagged on, I felt more miserable, constantly failing to measure up — and I no longer felt loved by God.

I labeled myself: unlovable.

Although I believed in the Gospel, I added my list of qualifications on top of grace.

The same thing happened to the Galatians in Paul’s day. So, what can we learn from the Galatians?

How can we experience God’s love?

How to Experience God's Love When You Feel Unloved

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1. Accept the Gospel—Again.

Here was Peter, a leader of the church, and he was adding to the Gospel, which made it no Gospel at all. (Gal. 2:11-14)

He was telling the Gentiles (non Jews) that they needed to follow the Jewish law of circumscision to be a Christian.  He cared more about what people thought of Him than being true to the Gospel.

When we add to the Gospel, we’re not following the Gospel at all.

I fell into the same trap.

In my darkness, a friend called and asked me to think about my depression from years before. What freed me back then?

And I remembered God’s unconditional love. I needed that unconditional love again. I needed the Gospel.


The Gospel is this: God so loved the world (including you) that He sent His one and only Son. Whosoever believes in Him will have everlasting life. (John 3:16)

Believe in Him. That’s it.


We experience God’s love when we accept the Gospel.

Once I accepted the Gospel again—God reached down into my pit of depression and offered me his hand of unconditional love.

His love offered me a way out. I needed His love to also free me from guilt.

2. Confess Your Sins

It’s not easy to show God our muddied souls, dripping with anger, lust, pride, lies, jealousy, gossip, greed.

We think He will shun us, maybe put us in some kind of spiritual time-out, but it’s the opposite.

God scoops us in His arms, spins us up in the air and then tucks us close. “I forgive you” is all we hear. And like magic, our muddied souls are glistening white.

So I confessed. I confessed my grumbling, my lack of trusting God, my anger, jealousy, and fears. I confessed my resentment of feeling stuck in a new city and tiny apartment and my rebellion to God’s plans. And I kept confessing because every honest word was replaced with supernatural joy.

Paul encourages the Galatians in 5:1, “It was for freedom that Christ set us free; therefore keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery.”

In other words, be free!

  • FREE from adding anything to the Gospel.
  • FREE from trying to make it on our own.
  • FREE from trying to live up to God’s standards of perfection.

We experience God’s love when we:

Accept the Gospel

Confess our Sins

 

But if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all wickedness. 1 John 1:9

 

After my confession session, I still struggled to turn off the lies that played on re-run in my mind. So, I knew I needed to act.

I needed to reset my thinking, not simply restart my living.

3. Trade Lies with TruthTrade Lies with Truth

So, I took out a piece of paper and started writing down the lies I believed about myself—the lies that felt true.

And I started to write the truths from Scripture to replace those lies.

“I’m a bad mom,” I wrote. “Only God is perfect. Apart from Him you can do nothing.”

And on and on —my list was long.

But one by one I traded the lies for truth.

And I started to feel loved.

We experience God’s love when we:

Accept the Gospel

Confess our Sins

Trade Lies With Truth

But What About Times We Start Slipping Again?

Ladies, let’s be honest. Sometimes I start believing those lies…or start slipping into anger and resentment.

The great thing about God’s unconditional love? It’s always there.

When the lies start playing their tune, I switch the channel to truth. I repeat the Scriptures I memorized when I made my list.

 

We experience God’s love when we:

Accept the Gospel

Confess our Sins

Trade Lies With Truth

What are the lies you believe?

I wrote “5 Lies That Trap Moms and How to Break Free” to help you practice trading lies for truth. Sign up to get my encouraging posts directly to your email and grab your copy while it’s still available.

May you experience the freedom of God’s love this week!

Love, Seana

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